. . . Make sure my children felt loved beyond
doubt, by me and by God. Feeling loved frees us to be who God created us to be.
Unfortunately, we get old too soon and smart too late to know what is critically
important. We especially realize this after rearing our children who did not
arrive with a manual. Hind sights provide us with great insights
that were not available at the time we needed them most. I have gained some of
those insights, and if I could do it over, I would view my children with new
wisdom that eluded me when my precious boys were entrusted into my care.
Therefore, I am sharing with you what I would do if I
could live my life over as a mother with the insights I learned along my
journey. I would get off to a good start when the doctor placed that little
bundle of joy in my arms the very first time. I would see that precious little
one as God’s child, not mine. I would be clear that my responsibility was to
care for and nurture this little soul for his Heavenly Father. For the sake of
this precious soul, I would strive to look beyond our family traits and
acknowledge that spark of the Divine inherent in him. Yes, he has our genetics,
and he, too, has the DNA of God within him. I would trust God in him to guide
his days so I would not interfere in God’s purpose for his life. And very
importantly, I would let each child know I trusted them to make good
decisions for their life. Trust is a great gift. It conveys we believe in them.
Children need us to have confidence in them. In addition, they have a tendency
to live up to our expectations.
Since our child is God’s child too, I would remember
that I am not raising this child alone. I would go to my knees for guidance on
his upbringing and especially when dealing with issues arising out of the norm.
When the big issues come up, I would surrender those challenges into God’s care
to work out.
I would start to teach children when very young that
they have their best friends—“God and Jesus lived inside them” and they can talk
with them about anything and everything seeking their guidance. I would also
teach them it is OK to make mistakes; in fact, mistakes are normal and God knows
that. If we humans could live without making big mistakes, then God would not
have had to become man through Jesus Christ. Unmerited love and forgiveness for
all our mistakes are a gift, not earned or merited. We are loved and accepted
beyond anything we can imagine, even with out mistakes and flaws.
Most importantly, every day, I would look each child in
the eye so the message would go straight into the soul and say, “I love you.
God loves you too.” Growing up never doubting being deeply loved will
change the world and the outcome of our lives.
The lack of feeling loved is the source of most
pain, hurtful behaviors, and harmful acts. We cannot pass it on if we have not
experienced unconditional love. If you have any doubt about being loved and
accepted by God, then go to a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say, “I
love you. God loves you too,” until you can feel it. Tears will come when it
lands in your heart. As long as there is life, it is not too late to do these
things. Adults still need to hear it, as well as our adult children and
grandchildren. Better to take action now rather than say later, “If I could do
it over, I would. . .”
Copyright 2004 Bobbi Sims,
Author of Judas’s Mother ---http://www.JudasMother.com
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